After making our way through the large vehicles at the jamboree, I spotted the police helicopter. Once I saw the pilot, I bombarded him with most of my big questions. He graciously answered all of them as well as providing encouragement to get my pilot license. I was beaming from ear to ear after our conversation and it made me even happier that I attended the Highwater Jamboree. What I didn’t know was that my husband spoke with the sergeant while I was talking to the pilot. Hubby jokingly asked about a ride along in the helicopter and the sergeant gave him his card and told him how to schedule the ride along. The sergeant let him know the wait could be a while but it could be possible to get in on a cancellation if there were any.
A few days later, hubby gets a call asking if we could make it and he jumped at the chance. All he told me was to be ready by 4:00pm and wear comfortable shoes. I thought he was taking me to a fun dinner so I did my makeup (rare), got dressed and put my wig on. Later on he told me my sister would be watching the kids so I got really excited thinking he was taking me a little farther than I anticipated. Finally he comes home, my sister arrives then we take off. I spent the entire drive trying to figure out where we were going. We chatted, made a few jokes then reached the area. I was still confused as the location didn’t really reveal much. Okay I might have been too excited to see the obvious. But once I saw the pilot I lost it!
We followed the pilot to his office, saw the inside, asked questions, signed paperwork and took a golf cart to the helicopter. We got a quick lesson on helicopter safety, I asked more questions then the water works started… I couldn’t contain my excitement. I should mention I don’t cry easily but fulfilling a bucket list item made me burst with emotions. As we were in flight, he showed us all kinds of cool things in our city including our house! We headed towards a neighboring city and he began to go over the controls. I was wondering why he kept going over the controls then he asked me the most amazing question. Would you like to fly? Needless to say I lost my mind and agreed possibly before he even finished. I confirmed the controls and proceeded to have the experience of a lifetime. I followed a river, looked at an amazingly perfect sunset and flew over beautiful homes.
These of course are just highlights but I had to share. Not only did I learn you can have a ride along in a police helicopter but I got the spark I needed to ignite my imagination and show me what was possible. I can be a pilot if I figure out how to pay for school while being a stay at home parent. I don’t know how but I’m sure I’ll eventually figure it out. What the future holds I don’t know but what I do know is thanks to my husband I enjoyed the ride along of a lifetime ❤
The picture above was only edited to include a modesty paint splatter because I chose to put it there. Besides that nothing has been done to the photo. Why do I have such an honest picture? Well I had an experience a few months ago that I thought should be accompanied by a picture for context. I was going to make this a pity party post but after having time to think about it decided to make it a teaching moment.
A few months ago I gave birth to a healthy baby. While everything turned out okay, I hadn’t been feeling myself due to things out of my control namely hormones. It had been a while since I had gotten out of the house without my little ones so hubby took me out for a midweek date. Everything started off great. Dinner, adult conversation and planning for the future. Then we decided to extend our evening by going to the mall. First I went to a makeup store to buy a liquid concealer along with two impulse buys. I was on a high because I really wanted the concealer but couldn’t justify buying it as I don’t wear makeup regularly. However my hubby is awesome and he was trying to spoil me per usual. The second store WAS my favorite. Just to clarify I am intentionally leaving out the name but I will say it was not Bath and Body Works. Now the story…
I was really excited to go to my store as I usually get to spend a decent amount on fun but completely unnecessary bath products. I went in with the intention to replace a skincare item and to get a few new bath balls. I walk in (see image above) with a huge smile on my face and no spending cap! Now I would never go too crazy but I was happy with the dollar amount I set for myself. I walk in the store but for the first time no one offers to help. Please note the store was in no way busy; there was maybe three customers not including ourselves. I figured someone would get to me when they were done however no one approached us. Then an additional associate walks out from the back and still nothing. I thought maybe they are changing places with the cashier but again wrong. I decided to say what I was looking for just in case they all assumed the other associate helped me but again nothing and one associate even avoided me. To reiterate small store, not busy and I am very hard to miss as I was dressed in a bright color. Right as I see an associate headed my way I smile and begin to form the words for the description of the items I’m looking for when she continues walking to help the customers that just walked in. At this point I am crushed because I have no other reasoning as to why I haven’t received assistance. Even my husband was annoyed to the point of wanting to complain.
So we go to the candy store next door in an effort to pick me up so I could work up the nerve to go back and give them a second try. The candy store was equally empty and the associate immediately greeted us and asked to let them know if we needed any help or had questions. This is all I wanted but didn’t receive at the previous store. We were greeted so nicely in the candy store I nearly cried. I was hormonal, still dealing with post delivery things and happy to be out of the house and that gutted me. I eventually walked to the back of the candy store so no one could see the tears forming. Now my husband was upset because I don’t cry easily. I explained to him that I haven’t dealt with that much profiling in YEARS. I thought “that stuff doesn’t happen where I live” because it is so diverse. Well I was wrong. Once I got it together, we brought our purchases to the front, made a few impulse buys, thanked them for their great customer service and left.
As we left and passed the offending store, my husband asked if I wanted to go back to complain. I declined. I was so sad that the thought of doing anything else gutted me. What if I went for dessert and the same thing happened? What if the way I looked put people off and that is why I wasn’t helped? Maybe my attitude seemed XYZ? Well by the time I arrived home I was still emotional but I started thinking. I didn’t do anything wrong. I am the same person I always am when around others. I smile at the very least and speak when at my best. I could have looked better but I was dressed the way I felt comfortable and in what could fit my post baby body.
The lesson I learned was to treat every customer like they matter. Don’t pick and choose who you will help. If you are at work in the customer service business and said customer has not been rude, violent, etc then you should give them the same customer service you want to receive. Or at the bare minimum ask if they need help. I don’t expect anyone to bend over backwards or go out of their way to help me. But what I do expect is common industry standard courtesy whether or not you think I have the money to be there. Because your actions might not have direct consequences but knowing you changed a persons day should matter. I consider myself a decent human trying to raise decent humans. I hope my children’s actions never cause anyone to feel the way I did that night at the bath store when Help was indeed Wanted…
I finally decided to live and stop trying to take all of the pictures. I don’t have any pictures from the beginning of our trip but below is a snap shot of our date night, the zoo and the baseball game. We had a blast and my son was able to hang out with his uncle, aunt and fur cousins 🙂
Looking at Hotel del Coronado
Wondering around Waterfront Park Area
Werewolf in Gaslamp District
San Diego Zoo
Petco Park – Padres vs Reds
My sister-in-law said it best: You can capture the image but you’ll never be able to share the feelings you experienced so enjoy the moment!
Thursday I talk to my mom who tells me they want the mini for the weekend. We happily agree and make arrangements. We knew we were going to see Black Panther but decided the mini was too young to attend based on what others were saying so this was the perfect opportunity to see it.
Friday we buy our tickets in advance in order to get decent seats; YAY seat selector!
Saturday is finally here. It’s cheat, movie and kid-free day!! Yes I only count Saturday as kid-free because we dropped him off Friday and would be picking him up Sunday. I’m thinking what could go wrong?! We already bought our tickets, my hair was pre-poo’ed and we had snacks ready to eat. All was going as planned. While hubby relaxed and snacked I started on my hair. This is when it all went down hill. I was getting ready to dry my hair when the plug to my dryer fell in water (no worries I’m fine). I started to panic because this is the only dryer that is both fast and straightens. I could either find an alternate or panic. Well I multi-tasked and did both.
I panicked, decided my hair couldn’t be fought and came up with a plan B. Plan B was detangling, moisturizing, braiding in 4 big braids and covering it with a knit hat. I was only a quarter of the way done when I saw the time and knew I had to go so we weren’t late. I put all the items above in my backpack purse, picked out my knit hat and ran out the door. I had to finish my hair and put on makeup while in the car and before anyone else could see me. First I set up all the products then realized it was horribly unsafe to put all the products out as one could roll under the brake and prevent us from being able to stop. After re-positioning everything I got to work. Right as I was parting my hair, I look up to see a homeless man staring directly at me either wondering what I’m doing or thinking I’m insane. Light is green and we’re off. I’m now in a showdown with my edges and finally success! I win 🙂 As we enter the parking garage, I’m freaking out because my brows already struggle under normal conditions and I could only imagine what horror the light would reveal once I entered the theater. Turns out I did a decent job but I put on my sunglasses just in case.
Finally we sit down to enjoy the movie; EARLY might I add. The movie was both visually appealing and spoke to me in a way I didn’t expect. Even hubby thought the story line was one of Marvel’s best. I’m torn whether or not to do a full on movie review as I am sure there are tons out there but I might do a His/Her review anyways. All in all this was a very amusing yet emotional movie date.
Not all dates are created equal but ALL dates can be fun! We relaxed, ate, measured the bathroom then went to Ikea. I like to call this a working date because we gathered a lot of ideas and created a plan for updating/ remodeling our house.
The food: Ethiopian deliciousness!!
Below are a bunch of things we found/ are budget friendly. We have no idea which ones will make the cut but the pictures below reflect what we liked.
All in all these are just ideas and inspiration which I am sure will change as we get to the research/development phase. But this was a lovely date with my man. It helped me get back to being a wife and not just mom all the time. It also reminded me why I chose this man and why he chose me. He’s amazing and the perfect balance to my brand of crazy 😉
I don’t really have a good reason for this video as we have no plans of buying the light but we both love playing with it!
Audience: May not be suitable for children that scare easily
Bonus Scenes: Stay all the way until after the credits roll (all of them). Yes I know most people know this however due to the shocking number of people that left the theater I figured it would be worth mentioning
definitely my favorite Thor movie
it is way funnier than the previous Thor movies
holds my attention without feeling rushed or dragging
Hela is awesome!!! In a villain kind of way 😉
Grandmaster is hilarious and very colorful
snacks of some kind are a must because this, like other Marvel flicks, is a long movie
As I write this, I’m listening to The Point Of It All by Anthony Hamilton on Pandora. This song sums up how I feel about my little family. I love when we’re together; that’s why I chose to make this a Family Day Date instead of a Date Night post. Call me mushy but with everything going on in the world I find my family to be a refuge thus I’m taking advantage of it by having a family date. Now to the post!
We decided to take our own family pictures because budgeting… The perfect backdrop was the beach. It had a combination of water and sand along with trees and dirt. It also gave us flexibility since we could bring our own lunch, E could move around (somewhat) freely and it still felt kind of romantic. Plus it was cheat day and this was the perfect environment for bad snacks.
Below is E and I goofing around in an attempt to get him to smile for the pictures.
The picture below is of one of the elephant seals. There were warning signs every where saying to stay away from them and not to approach for any reason because they’re aggressive. They were minding their own business while sunbathing and besides the dead pup all seemed tranquil. With that said we still gave them the respect and room they deserve because wild animal.
These pictures are of the beautiful scenery.
All in all this was a great day. Hubby and I were able to relax during the drive up because E fell asleep and stayed that way for most of the drive. We had a pit stop so I could nurse E and grab a few things we forgot. Arrived at the beach which was unusually busy because of some sort of tour but not too many people were on the beach because of the elephant seals. We took all of the pictures we wanted then ate snacks and relaxed. It was the perfect family day date.
So I’ll insert a few of my favorite related Pins from Pinterest (original sources unknown) instead.
The Target pin is so true and we actually did this numerous times due to the second pin about buying a house which leads to the reason we’ll be having third pins often. LOL
Onward to October’s dates 🙂
A friend sent me the most amazing looking pin in the world (at that moment). It was Pumpkin Cobbler. It’s promise of ease and tastiness drew me in. I bought all of the ingredients the next day. I was determined to bake this as it seemed perfect for dessert. My husband was intrigued because he hasn’t seen me this excited about a recipe since discovering cauliflower bread. He took our son while I started. We didn’t directly work together but it was still a team effort. Our quick dinner of frozen pizza and wings was done and our cobbler was minutes away from completion. I quickly put dinner on our plates and tried hard not to rush to dessert. Whomp whomp… Hubby was too sick to eat it. Poor guy couldn’t even finish dinner. But as bad as I felt for him I was thrilled for my success!
I immediately cut myself a piece and was extremely pleased with both ease, taste and smell. Since he was feeling better after he slept a while he was able to have a piece. It wasn’t fresh out of the oven like I planned but he still said he enjoyed it. Then he went to sleep again so I didn’t count that as our date night.
One thing I discovered thanks to September’s fail and hubby getting sick was that we have a better chance of alone time in the morning during our son’s first nap. We didn’t do anything extravagant but it led to something exciting. A different version of the pumpkin cobbler recipe from Pinterest; pumpkin cobbler muffins. I wanted to make up for our precooked dinner earlier in the week due to my excitement over the cobbler so I decided to cook a homemade breakfast. It was faster, the first meal of the day and could be enjoyed while our son slept which meant we could actually spend this time together.
I warned him in advance I didn’t know the exact way to translate the recipe to muffins (individual servings) so it might not be as good as the original. While I prepared we talked about what we wanted to do for the day as well as things we wanted to do to the house as money allowed. Then we went our separate ways. He gamed and I baked. Once I was finished I emerged with sausage, potatoes, fried eggs and Pumpkin Cobbler Muffins!
Yummy! This recipe sparked a fire in me. Pinterest wasn’t only good for wasting a ton of time on things that looked pretty, sound good and were funny. Pinterest was actually useful. So I figured I’ll keep using Pinterest for fun recipes for in home date nights. Plus I can use it for Penny Date type ideas any time I need to come up with something outside of the home that’s adventurous and affordable. I must thank my friend and Pinterest for saving date night before it even became regular.
I’m literally at the tail end of the best date night since having my son. This has been magical. What was supposed to be a quick trip turned into an impromptu night for my husband and I.
It started as needing to drop off things but I ended up inviting hubby. He was tired and didn’t feel like going but he knows his wife and agreed to humor me. As we were heading to our intended destination we saw food trucks and thought “that’s where we’re going for dinner”. I should mention this is special because after a hard week at work, pregnancy pain and irritation hubby surprised me by taking me to a food truck event. Happiest pregnant lady ever! Anyways we dropped everything off and headed back.
Upon arriving we see a compacted area of awesome near our new house (we bought a house but that’s a different post). We, for the first time in forever, get carded tagged and walk into the event.
We see this along with tons of food, adults, kids and pets.
I didn’t get any pictures because I was too busy enjoying myself. I ate popcorn chicken with gravy and Jasmine rice plus lumpia. Hubby ate chicken adobo with Jasmine rice and lumpia. I don’t remember the name of the truck but it was slightly salty yet still delicious. Then we tried fancy grass fed hot dogs and those were amazing. I ate a spicy cheddar dog and he ate a kobe beef dog. As we ate we laughed, cracked food jokes and enjoyed each other’s company. It was epic.
Fast forward to right now and we’re sipping on chai tea & drip coffee while enjoying an almond croissant. That’s when the lightning struck for this post! I plan on making this a regular post for two reasons. One we NEED a date night. Two it sort of holds me accountable for making time for date night. I’m not saying this will be weekly but it’ll at least be monthly. Once a month we can focus on each other and continue to make sure WE as a couple are still in sync.
PS – please forgive any errors (or crummy quality of pics) as I’m writing this on my phone☺