As I mentioned a while ago, I am now a Studio Manager/ Personal Assistant. I started off putting in a lot of hours in the studio so I could get the lay of the land. Slowly I started transitioning to 90% of my time being from home. Since getting pregnant, it’s more like 100% of my time is from home.
I had a romanticized version of what working at home with a toddler would look like. I thought, this will be the best thing ever. There was going to be perfectly scheduled time for everything and I’d have wiggle room whenever I needed it. I could earn money from home while being with my little man. What could be better?! Well… this isn’t a scary story but there are a few positives and negatives that were unexpected. I’ll name them and elaborate if necessary.
Pros of being WAHM
- Commute is awesome
- Dress code is at most casual at very least kid friendly
- Watch him grow and learn new things
- Can be there when he’s sick
- Can work when I’m sick unless I lose my voice
- Pregnancy related nausea & vomiting don’t interrupt my day too much
- Frequent bathroom breaks without anybody caring
- Can control food smells because it’s only myself and co-worker (toddler) during lunch
- House is maintained because I can wash clothes while on a call or clean during my break
Cons of being WAHM
- You work longer without realizing it because you’re at home and can check/ respond to work any time
- No adult co-workers to chat with throughout the day
- Toddler meltdowns can make phone calls very stressful
- Not having a dedicated office space is tough
- Distractions are common
- Must move all work items at the beginning and end of the work day
- Not having a proper desk and chair puts stress on the body especially while pregnant
- You are getting snacks for your child and you are right by the refrigerator
What my husband said:
- It’s just a ring
- It’s not a big deal
- It’s not like you did it on purpose
- I wanted to upgrade you anyways now I’ll just be doing it sooner
What I said:
- It was my ring though
- I think it’s a big deal
- No but I should’ve taken it in for maintenance like they recommended
I was thrilled when he said he wanted to upgrade my ring but then we went shopping… While going from store to store I thought about the whole day surrounding actually getting my ring. We took off of work, got the marriage license then headed to the store to look at rings and I ended up getting it right then and there 🙂 I was so happy and replacing the ring felt like I was trying to replace memories so I stopped looking. Hubby came up with the bright idea to double check the warranty even though it technically expired. Well guess what Le Vian has a lifetime warranty! It is going to take a while to get it back and I was without it during our anniversary but I’ll still have my ring. My memories remain intack and when I eventually get an upgrade it’ll be a fun surprise rather than a replacement 🙂
So I finally figured out how to link a video directly from YouTube! Hopefully it works☺
Happy Anniversary to us!
Letter to my husband:
I love you because you allow me to be myself in all of my weird, random, crazy, psychotic, childish and moody ways. I love how you look at me when I say something so crazy that even you wonder if I’m sane. I love how you sleepily comfort me in the middle of the night even if you don’t know what’s wrong. I love how you accept that I want to complain to my best friend (you) about something my husband (also you) did 😉 I love that you compliment me. I get angry you calm me down. I’m sad you try to lift my spirits. I cry you encourage me to let it all out. I become pessimistic you force me to see your annoyingly optimistic point of view. I feel like the world hates me and you remind me that it is impossible since the whole world doesn’t know me (there’s that annoying optimism). My point is I love you because you show that you love me enough to accept who I am not who you want or imagine me to be. You love the woman that I am, the capable wife I’m striving to be and the good mother I hope to become.
BBK (Inside joke)
Now for the anniversary kick off!
My husband & I travel as our anniversary gift to each other rather than exchanging gifts but we always go out to dinner on/ around our anniversary. This year we went to Red Lobster and I was totally surprised to find out it was my favorite time: ENDLESS SHRIMP!
Needless to say baby-love (our kid’s nickname) & I ate way too much shrimp but we enjoyed every minute of it. Hubby ordered the same but he has self-control unlike myself… We talked about our baby, what we were looking forward to and what we hoped to teach him/her. We chatted about the first things we want to document as well as the odd milestones that most people wouldn’t normally keep track of. We quickly mentioned fears but tried not to dwell on them too long as not to bring down the mood of the evening. We discussed other adult things as well as our upcoming (and probably last big one for a while) vacation. All in all it was the perfect night. Relaxing, loving, informative and fun/ entertaining.
FYI – Anniversary/ Vacation post will most likely be a ton of pictures with captions rather than a real post.