The picture above was only edited to include a modesty paint splatter because I chose to put it there. Besides that nothing has been done to the photo. Why do I have such an honest picture? Well I had an experience a few months ago that I thought should be accompanied by a picture for context. I was going to make this a pity party post but after having time to think about it decided to make it a teaching moment.
A few months ago I gave birth to a healthy baby. While everything turned out okay, I hadn’t been feeling myself due to things out of my control namely hormones. It had been a while since I had gotten out of the house without my little ones so hubby took me out for a midweek date. Everything started off great. Dinner, adult conversation and planning for the future. Then we decided to extend our evening by going to the mall. First I went to a makeup store to buy a liquid concealer along with two impulse buys. I was on a high because I really wanted the concealer but couldn’t justify buying it as I don’t wear makeup regularly. However my hubby is awesome and he was trying to spoil me per usual. The second store WAS my favorite. Just to clarify I am intentionally leaving out the name but I will say it was not Bath and Body Works. Now the story…
I was really excited to go to my store as I usually get to spend a decent amount on fun but completely unnecessary bath products. I went in with the intention to replace a skincare item and to get a few new bath balls. I walk in (see image above) with a huge smile on my face and no spending cap! Now I would never go too crazy but I was happy with the dollar amount I set for myself. I walk in the store but for the first time no one offers to help. Please note the store was in no way busy; there was maybe three customers not including ourselves. I figured someone would get to me when they were done however no one approached us. Then an additional associate walks out from the back and still nothing. I thought maybe they are changing places with the cashier but again wrong. I decided to say what I was looking for just in case they all assumed the other associate helped me but again nothing and one associate even avoided me. To reiterate small store, not busy and I am very hard to miss as I was dressed in a bright color. Right as I see an associate headed my way I smile and begin to form the words for the description of the items I’m looking for when she continues walking to help the customers that just walked in. At this point I am crushed because I have no other reasoning as to why I haven’t received assistance. Even my husband was annoyed to the point of wanting to complain.
So we go to the candy store next door in an effort to pick me up so I could work up the nerve to go back and give them a second try. The candy store was equally empty and the associate immediately greeted us and asked to let them know if we needed any help or had questions. This is all I wanted but didn’t receive at the previous store. We were greeted so nicely in the candy store I nearly cried. I was hormonal, still dealing with post delivery things and happy to be out of the house and that gutted me. I eventually walked to the back of the candy store so no one could see the tears forming. Now my husband was upset because I don’t cry easily. I explained to him that I haven’t dealt with that much profiling in YEARS. I thought “that stuff doesn’t happen where I live” because it is so diverse. Well I was wrong. Once I got it together, we brought our purchases to the front, made a few impulse buys, thanked them for their great customer service and left.
As we left and passed the offending store, my husband asked if I wanted to go back to complain. I declined. I was so sad that the thought of doing anything else gutted me. What if I went for dessert and the same thing happened? What if the way I looked put people off and that is why I wasn’t helped? Maybe my attitude seemed XYZ? Well by the time I arrived home I was still emotional but I started thinking. I didn’t do anything wrong. I am the same person I always am when around others. I smile at the very least and speak when at my best. I could have looked better but I was dressed the way I felt comfortable and in what could fit my post baby body.
The lesson I learned was to treat every customer like they matter. Don’t pick and choose who you will help. If you are at work in the customer service business and said customer has not been rude, violent, etc then you should give them the same customer service you want to receive. Or at the bare minimum ask if they need help. I don’t expect anyone to bend over backwards or go out of their way to help me. But what I do expect is common industry standard courtesy whether or not you think I have the money to be there. Because your actions might not have direct consequences but knowing you changed a persons day should matter. I consider myself a decent human trying to raise decent humans. I hope my children’s actions never cause anyone to feel the way I did that night at the bath store when Help was indeed Wanted…
As I write this, I’m listening to The Point Of It All by Anthony Hamilton on Pandora. This song sums up how I feel about my little family. I love when we’re together; that’s why I chose to make this a Family Day Date instead of a Date Night post. Call me mushy but with everything going on in the world I find my family to be a refuge thus I’m taking advantage of it by having a family date. Now to the post!
We decided to take our own family pictures because budgeting… The perfect backdrop was the beach. It had a combination of water and sand along with trees and dirt. It also gave us flexibility since we could bring our own lunch, E could move around (somewhat) freely and it still felt kind of romantic. Plus it was cheat day and this was the perfect environment for bad snacks.
Below is E and I goofing around in an attempt to get him to smile for the pictures.
The picture below is of one of the elephant seals. There were warning signs every where saying to stay away from them and not to approach for any reason because they’re aggressive. They were minding their own business while sunbathing and besides the dead pup all seemed tranquil. With that said we still gave them the respect and room they deserve because wild animal.
These pictures are of the beautiful scenery.
All in all this was a great day. Hubby and I were able to relax during the drive up because E fell asleep and stayed that way for most of the drive. We had a pit stop so I could nurse E and grab a few things we forgot. Arrived at the beach which was unusually busy because of some sort of tour but not too many people were on the beach because of the elephant seals. We took all of the pictures we wanted then ate snacks and relaxed. It was the perfect family day date.
So I’ll insert a few of my favorite related Pins from Pinterest (original sources unknown) instead.
The Target pin is so true and we actually did this numerous times due to the second pin about buying a house which leads to the reason we’ll be having third pins often. LOL
Onward to October’s dates 🙂
A friend sent me the most amazing looking pin in the world (at that moment). It was Pumpkin Cobbler. It’s promise of ease and tastiness drew me in. I bought all of the ingredients the next day. I was determined to bake this as it seemed perfect for dessert. My husband was intrigued because he hasn’t seen me this excited about a recipe since discovering cauliflower bread. He took our son while I started. We didn’t directly work together but it was still a team effort. Our quick dinner of frozen pizza and wings was done and our cobbler was minutes away from completion. I quickly put dinner on our plates and tried hard not to rush to dessert. Whomp whomp… Hubby was too sick to eat it. Poor guy couldn’t even finish dinner. But as bad as I felt for him I was thrilled for my success!
I immediately cut myself a piece and was extremely pleased with both ease, taste and smell. Since he was feeling better after he slept a while he was able to have a piece. It wasn’t fresh out of the oven like I planned but he still said he enjoyed it. Then he went to sleep again so I didn’t count that as our date night.
One thing I discovered thanks to September’s fail and hubby getting sick was that we have a better chance of alone time in the morning during our son’s first nap. We didn’t do anything extravagant but it led to something exciting. A different version of the pumpkin cobbler recipe from Pinterest; pumpkin cobbler muffins. I wanted to make up for our precooked dinner earlier in the week due to my excitement over the cobbler so I decided to cook a homemade breakfast. It was faster, the first meal of the day and could be enjoyed while our son slept which meant we could actually spend this time together.
I warned him in advance I didn’t know the exact way to translate the recipe to muffins (individual servings) so it might not be as good as the original. While I prepared we talked about what we wanted to do for the day as well as things we wanted to do to the house as money allowed. Then we went our separate ways. He gamed and I baked. Once I was finished I emerged with sausage, potatoes, fried eggs and Pumpkin Cobbler Muffins!
Yummy! This recipe sparked a fire in me. Pinterest wasn’t only good for wasting a ton of time on things that looked pretty, sound good and were funny. Pinterest was actually useful. So I figured I’ll keep using Pinterest for fun recipes for in home date nights. Plus I can use it for Penny Date type ideas any time I need to come up with something outside of the home that’s adventurous and affordable. I must thank my friend and Pinterest for saving date night before it even became regular.
I’m literally at the tail end of the best date night since having my son. This has been magical. What was supposed to be a quick trip turned into an impromptu night for my husband and I.
It started as needing to drop off things but I ended up inviting hubby. He was tired and didn’t feel like going but he knows his wife and agreed to humor me. As we were heading to our intended destination we saw food trucks and thought “that’s where we’re going for dinner”. I should mention this is special because after a hard week at work, pregnancy pain and irritation hubby surprised me by taking me to a food truck event. Happiest pregnant lady ever! Anyways we dropped everything off and headed back.
Upon arriving we see a compacted area of awesome near our new house (we bought a house but that’s a different post). We, for the first time in forever, get carded tagged and walk into the event.
We see this along with tons of food, adults, kids and pets.
I didn’t get any pictures because I was too busy enjoying myself. I ate popcorn chicken with gravy and Jasmine rice plus lumpia. Hubby ate chicken adobo with Jasmine rice and lumpia. I don’t remember the name of the truck but it was slightly salty yet still delicious. Then we tried fancy grass fed hot dogs and those were amazing. I ate a spicy cheddar dog and he ate a kobe beef dog. As we ate we laughed, cracked food jokes and enjoyed each other’s company. It was epic.
Fast forward to right now and we’re sipping on chai tea & drip coffee while enjoying an almond croissant. That’s when the lightning struck for this post! I plan on making this a regular post for two reasons. One we NEED a date night. Two it sort of holds me accountable for making time for date night. I’m not saying this will be weekly but it’ll at least be monthly. Once a month we can focus on each other and continue to make sure WE as a couple are still in sync.
PS – please forgive any errors (or crummy quality of pics) as I’m writing this on my phone☺