I DID IT!!!! Yes, all the caps and all the exclamations because I’m proud of myself! I had to fight to finish this challenge. I struggled with self doubt, poor food choices, exhaustion, angry kids, asthma issues due to the fires as well as a bunch of LIFE. I was originally thinking this would be easy compared to the Chloe Ting 2 Week Shred and I was right however as this was longer it presented different challenges. I regret nothing and would encourage everyone to try it as long as your doctor says it is okay.
It took me 1 hour 11 minutes and 8 seconds (1:11:08) to complete this 5k but I did it. It was past 9pm but I finished. I was shaking and crying but I finished. I was having breathing problems but I finished. My knees hurt but I finished. Now my feet are swollen (need different shoes), my hair smells, my kids are crying and the dog feels ignored but I finished. I am currently writing this right after finishing and as tired as I am I feel amazing.
I’m thinking about my next fitness challenge as they seem to keep me motivated and active while inside. I have a vague idea but I know whatever it is, I’ll complete it. I know the scale won’t magically go down a ton without steady healthy eating habits but it is a start and it is contributing to improving my mental health which is extremely fragile. Any little thing I can do to feel amazing, especially if it is free, I’ll do because feeling amazing right now is an accomplishment by itself. With everything going on in the world, I think everyone should find something big or small that makes them feel amazing! Please pick your version of amazing safely ❤
Self-care is all I hear about nowadays. I thought I was doing it accordingly until I realized it started to feel like everything else on my To-Do List. Then it got lost in the day-to-day. Once I was feeling good and burned out, I started to think about self-care again. What is it? How do I set aside enough time for it? What should I do during this self-care? And what’s the difference between self-care and hiding in the bathroom with a book and/or a snack?
Well thanks to my husband forcing me to have alone time, I discovered solo dates!
At first, I didn’t know what to do. I grew increasingly annoyed trying to make a plan. Then I remembered seeing a trailer for The Photograph. I knew hubby didn’t want to see it so I decided I’d go see it by myself. Normally I’m not a romantic movie kind of person but this looked interesting and I liked both actors. On Saturday, I got dressed and ran out the house like a little kid leaving on the last day of school before summer vacation (do they still have that?).
I decided to treat my city as a day trip. I took pictures as I normally would while in a new city. I intended on taking pictures of my movie ticket, food and beverage as well as of myself but I was too busy enjoying myself and only took pictures afterwards. The movie theater only had six other people and they were all couples. Everyone was spread out so I was in the row by myself which felt like having a giant home movie room. The movie was good and I’d recommend it if you want a romantic movie that doesn’t feel too cheesy or painful to watch. Next on my solo day trip was exploring the city; yes still my own city. I Googled nearby introvert friendly places but nothing seemed to catch my attention. I drove around aimlessly until it hit me. The LIBRARY!! It was quiet, introvert friendly and best of all free. I looked for the book I started reading during our cruise; it came from the cruise ship library. Once I got a new library card and asked some questions, I ordered the book and looked for two more. With books in hand and renewed energy, I went to a local chain restaurant, ate then headed home.
My second solo date was easier to plan and a little fancier. I knew I’d be going to an early movie because the ticket is cheaper and the theater is usually 90% empty. I got slightly dressed up, threw my stuff into my purse (no diaper bag for me) and left. I was running late so still no pictures before the movie. This time The Call of the Wild was my movie of choice. It was better than expected and focused on the dog so for me it was perfect. Since I skipped breakfast and popcorn doesn’t fill me up, I decided to go eat. I continued the tourist theme and looked for small independent looking places to go. The first was a restaurant I wanted to go to for a while but they didn’t have any parking available. I defaulted to a small coffee shop instead.
Espresso Metro is the cafe I ended up at. I’d driven by it many times before but never stopped as I was usually looking for something. This time I decided it would be my last stop on my solo date. I went in, told the barista it was my first time there. She recommended food (chicken tamale) and a beverage (custom latte) based on my preferences. The place was quiet but not empty like the theater. I took out my book and began reading. After a few minutes, which turned out to actually be over an hour, I noticed the customers coming and going. It had a pleasant buzz of noise but not too much that I couldn’t ignore. I continued reading until I wanted another drink. This is when I realized the actual time elapsed was a few hours so I concluded it was only right to make another purchase.
I purchased a chai and made small talk with the new barista as the previous one was done for the day. We chatted, I picked up my drink, went back to my table and continued reading. After another hour, I decided to head home. Upon my return, we were able to go out to dinner with just the two of us so it turned into a date night. Dinner and hanging out was the perfect way to end my solo date.
My solo self-care dates won’t always be the same but for now leaving the house with a book, phone charger and an explorers mindset has worked out great<3
I’ve been feeling lousy lately. Between allergies, fickle weather, yard work, cleaning and taking care of a very active child I’ve ignored myself to the point of getting sick. I’m typing this with a stack of fast food napkins (ran out of facial tissue…), hand sanitizer and cold coffee in front of me while my son sleeps off his late night party session. My face is swollen, pain behind my eyes and my body still hurts from the yard work I did on Sunday because I am horribly out of shape which I’m proud to say I will have a decent weight post coming soon. I write all of this to set the stage for my snap. Yes, I said snap.
I couldn’t take it anymore. I couldn’t help anyone else because all I wanted to do was cry, drink wine and go to sleep. However my new healthy lifestyle dictates that I find alternative ways of healing and relaxing other than my good friend Merlot or my BFF food. Now I would like to make it clear I still had wine but only one glass (6oz) well technically mug but that was because it didn’t feel safe to take a wine glass in the tub with me as I was already tired and didn’t want to add ‘cut by glass’ to my list of annoying things.
In walks my hubby 🙂 I simply said I need to take a bath and I don’t want either of you coming in or calling me; this was my snap . He made it happen!!
I grabbed the products above and prepared to have the most relaxing bath ever.
I lite my candles then turned off the light and started my Pandora Relaxation station.
I slowly poured each item in the tub so as to fully enjoy the aromas. First the epsom salt and bath balls which turned the water lavendar like the fragrance. I sat for a second to admire the beauty created by the bath balls. Then the bubble bath which further enhanced the mood. You couldn’t have convinced me I wasn’t in a world class spa. Sure my candles rested on my toilet and my bath tub isn’t perfect but that night I chose to see what I wanted which was a very affordable spa experience.
I truly appreciated the time I spent alone. And though it was very hard for me, I wasn’t thinking about what happened up until that point I was simply soaking up the time I had. While I was focusing on listening to the music and breathing in the allergy friendly level of lavendar that filled the air, I realized I should do this more often. I deserved this time alone to decompress and focus on me. I’m not sure how often I’ll be able to do this but my goal is going to be weekly. Once a week I will schedule time to do nothing. Sometimes it will be a bath, others a mani/pedi and when funds allow maybe even a day at the spa. For now I will focus on the time alone rather than the activity so I can be the best version of myself.